Family is the basic unit of society. However, we can see that this basic unit has been under attack these days. More and more families are on the verge of breaking down because of so many reasons. Even if there are distinctive family law definition, there are still victims of neglect and victims from people who have neglected agreements. More and more countries have made divorce and separation easier that they fail to shed light on the important side of the issue. Couples are not the only ones affected with their marriage break up. We need to understand that with this agreement to break up marriage, children are deeply affected physically, emotionally, and mentally. Things usually happen not thinking about the child’s best interest. What can we do to help children face the difficult situations of being in the process of their parents’ separation? How can we ease the tension they feel during the separation?
Help them Face reality
When we are a close relative and we have a family member who are undergoing divorce, we need to take the initiative to help the children if they have any. Of course, the couple also need emotional help but we have to come rescue the children who might be blaming themselves for the situation. They might do things beyond their ability in the hope that it can make his parents get back together again. Help them see the reality that their parents have made personal decisions and it was a final decision that he cannot do something about. Help them understand that they need no hero in this kind of situation and help them see the reality of their situation. We help them stay out of trouble because they would tend to rebel in this kind of situations as they are in a lot of confusion.
Help them Ease their Anger
Children would feel a lot of emotions at one time that they end up angry about everything. This is a confusing period of their lives so they need some mature person like us to help them handle the stress they are in. They always need someone to be with to talk with them so that their anger would just dissolve as they relate their thoughts and feelings into someone they can trust. They would always tend to get angry with the parent who has left the house so we need not add fuel to the fire. Help them understand that there is no bad person between their parents and they need to respect them even if they would not love together anymore.
Help them not to take Sides
With family law, parents are usually given shared custody and it could create a little confusion with the children. As a concerned relative, or a close friend, we can help their parents deal with them better when we help them not to take sides.
Children should be given proper attention in time of divorce. They may look okay on the outside but they are actually finding it hard to deal with on the inside.